There is a common misconception when it comes to strength in women. I've heard men say that they believe women try to be too strong and it makes them feel unwanted or needed.
Now... I did say some. There are men who list strength as a desirable trait. I've also heard women proclaim to be strong but, the behavior displayed seems to be coming from a different place. We need to get clear. Strong does not mean hard. It most absolutely does not mean harsh.
Let's look at the key parts of the definitions of each:
- Not soft; solid and firm to the touch
- Unyielding to pressure and impenetrable or almost impenetrable;fatiguing; Troublesome difficult to deal with, manage, control, overcome, or understand
- Involving a great deal of effort, energy, or persistence; harsh or severe
- Mentally powerful or vigorous, willful
- Having or able to exert great bodily or muscular power; robust
- Accompanied or delivered by great physical, mechanical, etc., power or force
- Especially able, competent; of great moral power, firmness, or courage
- Powerful in influence, authority, resources, or means of prevailing or succeeding
I consider myself competent, robust, powerful...strong. However, my strength never means that: I don't need help or support, I am incapable of being vulnerable, or I don't enjoy or desire being in a healthy relationship.
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